Dating someone with herpes 2
Something about contagious disease itself is inherently frightening. If you were infected, it is unlikely that the infection would ever return. Ask your partner whether they've been tested for herpes, and what type of test they got.
Whether he is on suppressive therapy. And the sexual chemistry is the best I've felt among all people I've dated and feeling is mutual. It just makes sense to get both people tested for Herpes in a sexual relationship. If you really care for this person and you've got a good thing going, I'd get myself educated and not worry about it.
Now, you'll have to decide whether to stay with and continue dating someone with herpes. It shows they are honest, caring, and considerate of their partners. The visceral horror people have about leprosy, which is also sort of a skin condition.
But people have the right to be silly. Your partner has shown a lot of courage to tell you that they have herpes. This will give you a clearer idea of what you are dealing with. Take things slow and lovingly.
Then avoid sexual contact during the whole cycle of outbreak. They can act on that fear, or they can research and see if their feelings change with more knowledge. Several people on these boards were infected in this way.
If he is man enough to tell you, he is the type of man that will protect your health. People have the right to be afraid for stupid reasons, or say no for any reason or no reason at all. Or from platonic kissing at a family gathering. It takes a lot of courage for your partner to admit they have herpes to you. Avoid sexual contact before, during, and after outbreaks.
My mother gets cold sores, my father and my siblings have never contracted anything from her if that gives you some peace. If I'm negative, I'm inclined to reject her. But, there's still that chance of getting the virus if you are dating someone with herpes.